5 QUESTIONS THAT LEAD YOU TO FINDING YOUR PURPOSE
As an occasionally insurgent adolescent, I proudly announced to my tremendously religious mother that I was going to be a supermodel - either that or some form of public speaker.
Ultimately what felt like years of negotiations, she agreed that I could model as long as I wasn’t parading my “goods” on the runway.
Now of course, I took those terms and conditions very lightly, (I mean, who actually reads that part of the agreements?!) because in my heart I knew that if I was succeeding, my mother would be understanding…right?
It’s safe to say that we will never know if I would be praised or disowned - I quickly realized that my love for food was far greater than my desire to catwalk. What I did know for sure was that I had a deep feeling for making people feel and look so damn good.
Blogging about these said things is my purpose.
Though I’ve always known what I wanted to do and consistently stood by it, (okay, maybe not when I wasn’t frustrated!) these are the few self-reflecting questions I searched within me in order to pursue what felt like my calling.
WHAT IS THE LIFE YOU DREAM OF?
As children, we all have a glimpse of who we want to become, before the “adulting” stages and responsibilities strip us from our fondest imaginations. Digging deep into these old dreams can sometimes give us an idea of what our purpose might be.
I find that visualizing and imagining a life with no limits can be the fuel that drives you to understand what it is you want and how to go after it.
What you would come to realize is, no matter how big these dreams may seem to be, they are in fact achievable through perseverance.
WILL IT CHANGE SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE?
I don’t care if your calling is to make burgers, paint or speak to a million people through motivational trials.
Whatever it is, I believe that your purpose will change someone’s life somehow (even through tiniest details), when you feel it in your bones and do it with your heart.
Now, if you’d like to do something you enjoy in the name of self-care, by all means do it because that is imperative and I stand by it! But that is a hobby defined as your passion.
Your purpose is meaningful and worthy of some sort of legacy - and it starts when you make a little change in the world, one person at a time.
WOULD YOU DO IT FOR FREE?
Now let’s be clear, anything can be turned into a profit because someone will buy something if it makes their lives better.
But if this notion suddenly changed, would you still stay on this journey because it kept you at night?
More than often, we have to start small to eventually get BIG and I think a lot of people lose themselves worrying about being a CEO when they haven’t experienced being an assistant.
So, what would you wholeheartedly and happily do for free?
Good, go for it!
DOES IT SET YOUR SOUL ON FIRE?
“Be in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.”
If you haven’t noticed yet, this is one of my all time favorite quotes, as it constantly reminds me of why I do what I do!
What keeps you up at night? What pushes you beyond your limit and gives you that burning desire? What drives you?
That is the exact thing that will pull you through all obstacles when you have no strength left in you and every single person expects you to fail!
WHAT’S STOPPING YOU?
First and foremost, I’d like to say that whatever you are going through is valid.
But these things are meant to build your character and not victimize you. Go through these emotions than grow through them. There’s nothing worse than knowing you should have a purpose driven life but living with zero drive and doing the bare minimum - ignore your subconscious mind telling you aren’t worthy of it.
Stay away from the least resistant path of instant gratification and establish the pattern of going through the most resistant one, that leads you to achievement.
Choose the future you want to live but know that challenges, failures and self-doubt is a pre-requisite for a successful purpose.
Now contrary to popular belief, your purpose and passion are two different things. Your purpose is that reason for existence that ignites your soul while your passion is what you enjoy doing. And when those two are meshed together, it creates something unimaginable.
I am no expert but I can attest that finding your purpose takes years of self-experimentation and self-exploration. So don’t beat yourself up if you are still figuring things out because the truth is, we all are.