HOW TO NOT BE A CHRISTMAS GRINCH DURING THE HALLMARK SEASON

 
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“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

— RALPH WALDO EMERSON

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HOLIDAY-2018-GOWN
HOLIDAY-2018-GOWN

For someone who constantly struggle with multi-tasking (I don’t think it’s productive by the way), I sure am an avid podcaster. 99% of the time, when my earbuds are in, I am in a controversial or motivational universe, that puts me in the rhythm to tackling my day.

Several days ago, in my constant efforts of doing more than one thing at once, I stopped mid-laundry fold to attentively listen to an eye-opening episode of the Black Girl Podcast.

In this yearly recap, the hosts, who often make me feel like I am sitting across from them over coffee, were discussing the evolution of celebrating holidays and why less people show up as you get older. This eventually led to the conversation of two types of celebratory people: the contagiously happy ones and the eye roller ones.

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Now as someone who has the potential of banging on my relatives’ door for the sake of caroling and dragging them into the festivities (I am dead serious), I never understood the eye-rolling spectrum of the holiday seasons.

Undoubtedly, I knew that not everyone were under fortunate circumstances but I was also naïve enough to hope that these “dark” issues would be tucked in a box behind the tree — at least until it was time to take the Christmas décor down.

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HOLIDAY-2018-GOWN

When one of the ladies opened up about annually losing a friend around the holidays, because they didn’t respect her decision to not be festive, I had an epiphany. Maybe the eye-rolling bunch didn’t need saving from the chipper ones. Most of them just wanted to be considered for their choices to isolate themselves, rather than the incessant conversions we, the happy people shove down their throat.

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HOLIDAY-2018-GOWN

Unmistakably, there’s a difference between someone who is going through deep depression and needs to be surrounded with love, hence my HOLIDAY 2017 | HOW TO BEAT THE HOLIDAY BLUES post, and one who is nonchalant about the celebratory days.

My point is to stress the latter, because like the host on this podcast, their views genuinely doesn’t align with the eggnog and mistletoe festivities.

So I conclude this notion of learning “How To Not Be a Grinch During The Hallmark Season” by simply saying, be whoever the hell you want to be!

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HOLIDAY-2018-GOWN

However, if you are in fact a Grinch, this is a gentle reminder to not ruin those who enjoy their season, by imposing your economical and systematic views at their holiday party. On the other hand, if you are in fact Santa’s little helper, this read should be an indication that maybe, some people don’t need a saving grace — just some time in solitude, to digest the colorful lights that seem to take over their lives the minute the Thanksgiving turkey has been digested.

In case you’re wondering, I did manage to finish my laundry and listen to the podcast at the same time.

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