HOW TO FACE YOUR FEARS & BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE
Did you know that we are only born with the fear of falling and the fear of sound - everything else is an adaptation we are taught to have over time. From cradles to adulthood, generational and societal fears have been instilled in us, leading to lack of self-confidence.
It's very important to have natural instincts like staying away from a burning flame, a loaded gun or abusive substances but not the ones that tell you not to achieve your most desirable dreams. Learn to cancel out the self-sabotage behaviors that hinder your growth - instead, replace these with "I can do this" moments.
I've more than often missed unimaginable opportunities because of my lack of self-confidence. In fact, if I did get an opportunity that I worked really hard for, the imposter syndrome would kick in and convince me that I didn't deserve it and I could lose it any minute.
With a lot of "Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway" moments, I've managed to rewire my brain by only allowing these positive strategies (which I implement most of the time, as I am human and slack off too) and letting my subconscious mind know that I am in charge here.
1. STAY HUNGRY
Your hunger for success has to undoubtedly be greater than the comfort of your fears! What is something that sets your soul on fire and keeps you up at night? Be obsessed with that desirable thing so much that every time your fears creep up on you, that exact thing eliminates it.
2. ELIMINATE NEGATIVE PEOPLE
Energy is transferrable.
Protect yours by eliminating anyone who doesn’t serve the purpose of positivity because they will suck your energy dry.
In my experiences, I've met two types of negative people - those who tell you that you're incapable of achieving your dreams due to a reflection of their own realities and those who constantly complain about their circumstances and do nothing to change them. While their behaviors are unintentional (I would hope so), you are bound to eventually become like these "Negative Nancies" because trust me, birds of the same feathers do flock together.
I've been guilty of maintaining rapports with toxic people in order to motivate them and in the end I was drained. You can't inconvenience yourself to help those who wouldn't even inconvenience themselves for their own goals!
So remember, if there is no elevation, there needs to be separation.
3. WORK EVERYDAY TOWARDS YOUR GOALS
Every. Single. Day.
Whether it's for 10 minutes after your "9 to 5" or 8 hours on your day off, make time for your craft and be obsessed with progression (not to be confused with perfection).
Being self-disciplined by working on your goals everyday will allow you to be better your skills and build your confidence. Have you ever completed a challenging task or fully developed something that was just an idea? How did this make you feel? Empowered? Determined? Motivated? Good. Now find that exact fuel by working on your goals and continue to practice them.
It's always best to be prepared when the opportunity comes.
4. REWIRE YOUR BRAIN
If there's one thing I hope you take away from this post, it's that none of these tasks can be completed if you aren't in the right frame of mind.
The minute I find myself complaining about something I don't want to do but need to, my brain automatically produces a defense mechanism to convince me why procrastination is key.
Spoiler alert, there's no short cut!
Talk yourself out of your negative habits. Listen to motivational speeches in the morning before looking at your social media apps. Follow people who doing what you'd like to do and are where you'd like to be. If you mentally out yourself in the environment you'd like to be, you're bound to believe you're already there.
And I promise you, with the power of your words, mind and hard work, you will be there.
What's something that you currently struggle when it comes to being confident? What's a strategy you can use to overcome this fear and build your confidence? Have you been working on rewiring your brain? If so, what worked for you?