HOW TO GET OUT OF A RUT WHEN YOU'RE FEELING STUCK

 
 
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Have you ever felt completely stuck, mundane and unmotivated? And then, BAM! You see everyone's "perfectly" figured out life on your Instagram feed.

Yup, me too.

And the truth is, it's all a scam sis!

Please don’t compare your raw, unfiltered life with someone else's well curated, digital life.

I am constantly reminding myself that no one puts their dirty laundry on social media - it's more than often tucked away behind the cameras. This isn't to say that there aren't people who share their truth online and work really hard for what they have - but as they say, it takes years of consistent hard work to become an overnight success.

As long as it is not a permanent predicament, being in a rut is absolutely normal and happens to the best of us. It's a natural way to react when we are looking for growth and lack the proper directions to exceed, all while feeling like everyone around us is just killing it in the game.

The best way to actually get out of feeling stuck is by taking some form of action.

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TIME TO YOURSELF

But not forever.

Whatever you are feeling, it is valid.

Acknowledge it, feel what you're going through and then go through it. I personally know that internalizing things is a recipe for disaster, so I prefer to allow myself to feel the emotions I have in a timely manner, then get back to business.

Feed your soul, be kind to yourself then bounce back like you never left!

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CHANGE YOUR SPACE

Get new curtains, bed sheets or throw pillows, as long as it's something that changes your spirit! 

I like to swap my daily routine, vision board and desk decor to something different on a quarterly basis, as it's a mental boost to me. Sometimes being in a rut comes from a desperate need for change, so why not tweak a few things here and there? 

A revision in you life can also be as simple as reorganizing your stationary or implementing a new self-care routine. Remember, it doesn't have to be expensive (unless you're living lavishly) to make a big difference.

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A DIGITAL BREAK

I didn't how addicted I was to social media until I took a break, then constantly found myself reaching for the app. I mean, it was ludicrous! 

Getting into the black hole of Instagram feeds, to yet again compare my missteps with someone's filtered achievements is outright unhealthy. If you ever find yourself in a place that like that, pull back and get back into the real world for a bit - I promise, you won't miss out on anything.

I have to stress that a digital break shouldn't only a result of sadness due to "wanting" what others seem to have, but also to remind you to be level headed when you lose touch of gratitude. 

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GET INSPIRED 

There's nothing nothing like a good ol' morning inspiration to pave your day into the right direction.

Inspirational videos, books, podcasts and mood boards are a few of the many ways to boost your energy, once you allowed yourself to recognize what you feel. A ritual I enjoy doing every morning prior to starting my day is playing self-discipline videos (on a loud speaker), while having breakfast or writing a journal entry.

Another way to get inspired is by seeking advice from other people. We all go through these stages in life, so why not reach out to a close friend or family member who was once in your position and can push you beyond your limits? 

You don't have to go through this alone.

So please, don't.

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SIGN UP FOR A CLASS

Bettering your skills by investing in yourself is one of the most powerful act.

I recently signed up for a branding class that cost me an arm and a leg (unborn child included) but the return in investment will be tenfold this fee.

If possible, try to invest at least 5% of your income in books, classes or seminars - anything that can improve your knowledge while placing you around like-minded people. I found that once I signed up for this and interacted with others who felt stuck too, things started to fall into places.

Even if it's something contrary to your business, taking a class removes you from being in your negative state of mind because it keeps you busy with something else.

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Believe me when I say I constantly struggle with comparison, self-loathing and falling so far out of my routine that I don't even know where to start again. But calling myself out on these type of strenuous behaviors and actually implementing a change has made a massive difference. Persistently finding ways to fix the predicament of being stuck has tremendously helped with easing my stress.

So if you're feeling complacent, I am here to tell you that these are all valid feelings. It's what you do with your current circumstances that matter the most, so I hope you implement a few tactics to help.

DISCUSSION

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Have you ever felt uninspired or stuck in a rut? What did you do to overcome this experience? have you tried any of the above tactics in the past? Someone might find it useful so please comment below!

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